Trauma after dating girl with bpd
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Im a gentle calm man that can keep my calm no matter what. Im still depressed as hell but I met someone special and Im definitely damaged goods.I wish all I had to deal with was what all these abused women do.
Im a great dad and she has CPS helping her and she is still filing reports and the police are waiting for me to come back to my home where I grew up and left everything. I believe in waiting a bit before sleeping with someone and I like making other smile.
You might want to go to the movies–your partner will make sure you go out to dinner instead. He or she might even brag about the fact that they have left a trail of tears behind them.
You might be terrified of what your partner will say or do if you tell them. He used to put you up on a pedestal…and now all he does is try to tear you down. From little things to big things, you feel like your partner never listens. They lie about things they don’t need to lie about. They can swear on their life that they are not lying. A healthy person is consistent in the way they treat people, regardless of their status. Your partner has a bad reputation or a tradition of “messy relationships”.
One day, he is caring and loving and wonderful, and the next he is hateful and raging and mean. You are afraid to talk, or when you do talk you feel like you are never heard, your words are taken out of context, misunderstood, or blatantly ignored. In the beginning of a relationship they might seem like everything you ever wanted….usually this is because they are trying to act like everything you ever wanted. You have no support group and therefore your partner gains more power. He or she might be mean to people they think are “below them” or people who are defenseless, like babies or children.
Like flipping a switch, he can change drastically from one extreme to the next. He or she acts one way when they are around you, but completely different around your parents, and completely different around their friends. Slowly, you lose your friends until you feel like your partner is the only person you have left. Your partner cycles from mean and vicious to sweet and loving, then back again. He might set traps for squirrels or rabbits and then torture them.
The smallest perceived slight triggers them and the self-hatred they are so desperately trying to rid themselves of.
Many people enter the therapy process with minimal awareness of their trauma history.
However, BPD is a very horrible and tricky-to-understand disorder because, in reality, the people they care about the most, the ones they “love” (though it’s not the same mature, adult love we try to give them) are the same people they are uncontrollably hurt by — seemingly out of nowhere.
All their past trauma and pain is linked to you and your love (or proof that they are unlovable).
I almost forgot, according to the law, I was even raped by her.
AND YES, IM ALL ALONE WITH NOBODY WHO UNDERSTANDS OR EVEN KNOWS ME IN A CITY I DONT KNOW ALL ALONE.
Steve, it sounds like your girlfriend may have been struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder (and possibly much, much more).